How do I get excitement back in my marriage?

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My marriage is losing it’s luster, it’s excitement. We both seem bored. Any advice for spicing things up?

Too often we get caught up in the routines of every day living and forget that we need to work on our marriage and relationship as hard as we work on our family and jobs. You can’t take each other for granted. Sometimes you have to get out there and rekindle the flames. They are still there, you just have to fan them a bit to get the fires burning hot again. When you are bored in other situations, what do you do? You go look for something to solve the problem. You look for ways to make it better. A marriage is no different. You have to be creative sometimes. Try making a date with each other once a week without the kids and without taking work along with you either physically or mentally. You need time to yourselves to rebond and reconnect as yourselves, not as Mom, Dad, boss, worker, homeowner, errand runner, fix-it person or any other day to day hat you have to wear. That is a healthy thing to do. Don’t feel guilty or selfish for wanting to do this. Your marriage is important and sometimes it has to take the front seat over other things to keep it fresh and healthy. The date doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy if that isn’t something that appeals to either of you or isn’t in your budget, but if you never splurge on yourselves or each other, this might be a good time to do it. Go to something you both enjoy that you haven’t been to in awhile, or take turns and experience something your spouse is interested in that may not thrill you. In that case make it a relearning experience. Get to know each other all over again and why you fell in love in the first place. It is all still there. Talk TO and WITH each other and not AT each other Go on a weekend getaway together or just do something plain silly and fun to lighten up. Each of you sit down and write a list of things you would like to do from the simple to the complex. Dream a little, even if it is as simple as having wine at the local park in the moonlight. Try spicing up your romance and love life too once in awhile and be extra attentive to each other. Put some elbow grease and polish in that lacklustre marriage and make it glow again! Mama Nono

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